I get mixed emotions when I see kids with locs, especially when they are not in the teen years and can decide what they want. I love locs when they are styled in a cute way; however, I wonder, did that child ASK to have their hair in locs?
To me locs, and relaxers, are a long-term commitment, moreso than corn braids and ponytails. When a parent opts to put a relaxer in a child's hair, they're making that commitment to relax their hair for possibly a lifetime. Or, until the child decides they no longer want to have a perm. The same goes for locs. There's a boy that goes to my daughter's school and his mom has locs... so does his three-to-four year old sister. For some reason, he doesn't. He has always kept a low-cut fade.
I know some parents may say, "Well it's MY child and I will put a perm/locs in his/her hair if I want to." Although it's your prerogative to do what you want with and to your child (we all know there's limits), should we consider what the children want, think and/or feel about their hair?
Once that child becomes a tween and they have either a relaxer or locs, are you as a parent going to allow them to change their hair? Why did you put a relaxer/locs in their hair in the first place? Should a child even have a relaxer or weave in their hair? Since you're relaxing and loc'ing their hair, are you also going to color it? Did you put those locs in for personal reasons or did you feel as though it was the only way to get your child's hair to grow? Does your child question how/why you do their hair the way that you do? Is it really necessary to have your 2nd grader with colored extensions that come to their butt? Did you put locs in their hair due to cultural beliefs/practices?
After thoughts: I know this blog topic may not be the most popular among the other blogs and posts that I have done, and I accept that. It took me about a week or so to write this. I added, omitted, reworded, etc., quite a few times. I am not intentionally passing judgement and trying to make anyone feel bad about the choices that they make for their children's hair. I'm not sure that I went about the message in the most politically correct way; however, those that know me know that I am not always politically correct. I tend to go against the grain, speak my thoughts and speak my mind... perhaps it shouldn't even matter...
However, please understand that I just want you all to be cognizant of the choices made when it comes to your children's hair. They are people too and have thoughts, feelings and emotions, especially when it comes to their image. I suggest you ask them how they want their hair, get their buy-in and come to a consensus BEFORE making a commitment to one particular style.
Please, feel free to share your thoughts and reactions... I'm open to conversation and feedback!
~Keep it kinky!